Responsibility for Aging Parents
Juggling Responsibilities: Tips for Thriving in the Sandwich Generation with Aging Parents
Hey Friends!
You know when something is really important to you it seems you have to share it? But with most new things there is a combination of excitement, fear and uncertainty. It’s a leap of faith, right?
So here goes…
Have you noticed that there aren’t enough conversations about adult children sandwiched between their life and the lives of their aging parents?
Sure there is great information about services in your community for senior citizens or consultants that will give you legal advice or assist you with placement options… but what about the day-to-day responsibility for aging parents?
And not too much about what to do when your parents call you 20 times a day about the remote or the computer or their phone!
There isn’t much discussion about what is just part of normal aging or something else. You’ll hear older people quote Bette Davis saying “old age ain’t no place for sissies” BUT nobody is talking about how caretaking ain’t a walk in the park for you!
It’s tough because your parents…
Won’t listen to reason
Cry every time you call
Seem to have trouble remembering things
Are paranoid and distrustful
Have trouble processing information
Aren’t taking care of themselves
Yell at you all the time
Play the shame game with you
Guilt you into taking care of their needs
Fill in the blanks ________, ________, _________
I usually say I was my parents' caretaker for about 10 years but in hindsight it really started 4-5 years before that. The initial changes in my parents were subtle and not particularly challenging. It was easy enough to roll my eyes or laugh it off! I wish I had started educating myself then.
My motto now…
PROACTIVE IS BETTER THAN REACTIVE!
Imagine if you could start building more effective styles of interactions with them today rather than when there is a crisis! I have a FREE simple 3-step guide you can download now that will give you a proactive strategy and some immediate relief in communicating with your aging parents.
If you want to know more about “normal aging” keep reading…
Life is full of twists and turns, zigs and zags each offering unique experiences and opportunities for growth. Sometimes exciting and joyful, other times long and arduous! One such significant stage is late adulthood, also known as the elderly stage or older adulthood. As your parents transition into this phase, it is essential to appreciate the wisdom, joy, and immense value that comes with it. In the calm, quiet moments try to embrace the beauty of late adulthood, wrestle with the challenges it may present, and look for ways you can celebrate and support your aging parents.
Some people call this the Golden Years or The Third Act. I think that is better than what some researchers call the Old Stage and the Old, Old Stage
The Golden Years generally begin around the age of 65 and extends through the rest of an individual's life. It is a time characterized by many and varied physical, emotional, and social changes. While it’s true that aging may bring certain challenges, it also presents numerous opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment.
Wisdom and Life Experience from Your Aging Parent
One of the hallmarks of late adulthood is the accumulation of wisdom and experience. Older adults possess a wealth of knowledge acquired through decades of living, learning, and adapting to various circumstances. Their experiences shape their perspectives and enable them to offer invaluable guidance to younger generations. Hopefully this wisdom and perspective will serve as a compass for making informed decisions and navigating life's challenges as you take on responsibility for aging parents.
Challenges, Adjustments, and Responsibility for Aging Parents
Although late adulthood has its rewards, it is not without its struggles and challenges. Physical changes, such as a decline in energy levels and increased risk to illness, may require changes in daily routines and lifestyles. Mental health issues, such as depression and loneliness, can also arise due to factors like loss of loved ones or social isolation. Many of these physical and mental challenges can be avoided or minimized with the right support system and access to appropriate healthcare.
Maintaining Physical and Mental Well-being
In order to make the most of late adulthood, it is important that elderly people prioritize physical and mental well-being. Engaging in regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and practicing good sleep hygiene can help promote overall health. Additionally, mental stimulation through activities like reading, puzzles, or pursuing hobbies can enhance cognitive abilities and provide a sense of fulfillment. Fostering and maintaining social connections and participating in community and social activities can fight loneliness and give your parent a sense of belonging and purpose. Unfortunately some aging adults are unmotivated to do this which is frustrating and worrisome to their loved ones.
Celebrating the Elderly Stage
Late adulthood is a stage to be celebrated, not just for the individuals experiencing it but for society as a whole. There are countless ways to honor and respect older adults. Offering intergenerational programs that bridge the gap between younger and older generations can create opportunities for mutual learning and growth. Recognizing the contributions of older adults to society, whether through volunteer work, mentoring, or artistic endeavors, is another way to appreciate their invaluable presence.
Promoting Age-Friendly Environments
Creating age-friendly environments is crucial for ensuring the well-being and inclusion of older adults. This involves designing public spaces, transportation systems, and housing options that are accessible, safe, and supportive for individuals with different physical abilities. Providing access to affordable healthcare, including geriatric care, and encouraging policies that promote healthy aging are vital steps towards building
Here’s to being proactive!
Hang in there,
Edla
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NOTE: It's important to remember that aging is a highly individualized process, and the timing and progression of these stages can vary among individuals. Additionally, lifestyle factors, genetics, and overall health play significant roles in how individuals experience aging.
